13 years, gold stars, and your running recs
Also in here: I want to know what you hated most about that speech
Something fun to share: I was recently interviewed for the terrific newsletter You’ve Got Lauren, where I’m answering to a few questions no one has ever asked me about motherhood, identity, and shooting film. Special thanks to Lauren for the feature!
Good day, my dear readers! I’m getting ready for our trip to Arizona and doing my best to cope with my rage at Harrison Butker (more on that below) (and even more in my next Deep Dive) (yeah, I’m that mad).
ON A HAPPIER NOTE, over the weekend Nate and I celebrated our thirteenth anniversary! We went out on a really simple date, but it was somehow so romantic??
First, we had to stop by Trader Joe’s for a couple groceries and of course we were delighted to find our wedding flowers (peonies!) there. Then we held hands and walked around Santa Monica for a bit while we waited for our table at Burgette, which was insanely delicious. On our way home we stopped at Jeni’s for ice cream, our longtime favorite way to end a date. It was just perfect! I couldn’t stop smiling.
Monday was our actual anniversary, so we took the kids to In-N-Out, our family tradition because that’s where we had lunch after our wedding ceremony.
mom talk
I’m giving myself a gold star and a demerit!
today’s bouquet
We live in an old house that never stays a consistent temperature, so I just bought Mick this blue cotton blanket to swap out for his warmer “winter” bedding. It’s sturdy but soft and reminds me of a pink one we had when I was little!
Filed under actual emails my mom forwards me: a trial lawyer’s tips on responding to a liar. Good stuff.
These are the best greek-style sandals I’ve seen this season. Similar/ less expensive here and here.
Never-before-seen photos of British royals over the last few decades. I love the one of the four royal mothers.
Crying laughing, feeling so very seen.
Thank you Pat Mahomes! (via Nate)
I signed up to make a cake for a youth night at church on Sunday, and my friend Natalie, our president, asked me to make this Texas sheet cake recipe — oh my gosh, best chocolate cake I’ve ever made. And it was so simple.
Bookmarking this resort-style green juice recipe for our next family pool day.
Kid friendly coffee table books!
Head over heels for these daisy knobs. (If you read Block Shop and/or A Thing or Two, then yes, that makes me the third newsletter girl to link these.)
your running gear recs
Thank you for sharing your favorite ways to keep your phone in place while you run! Here are all the recommendations I got when I asked in last week’s newsletter:
Ruth loves these $26 leggings
Marianne recommended this running belt with a zipper
Millie and Adrienne call this the “holy grail” of running belts
Rebecca suggested the Koala Clip, interested to see if this will work with 34AA’s ;-)
Tara recommended these Lululemon 5-pockets leggings
Darcy wore this bra with a phone pocket in two(!) marathons and calls it a game changer.
- lives in these Beyond Yoga pocket leggings.
Mady likes this belt for staying balanced (with the phone centered, not in a leg pocket) and keeping pants in place.
i want to know…
I can’t explain how enraged I am by Harrison Butker’s recent commencement speech at Benedictine College. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, google it. Whenever I think about it, it makes me so angry I can’t even see straight. I’d really like to hear what you’re feeling right now, if you don’t mind sharing.
And a quick allegory because when I’m pissed off, I write a lot.
last thing
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Depending on the moment, a different angle of that speech slices me in half. Right now, it’s the lack of dimension he assumes of women — the flatness of a woman’s experience and existence. How can he see other humans so shallowly? It leaves me with a gut-churning type of rage-sadness that feels HEAVY. Particularly because I’m a stay at home mom of two toddlers who has a masters degree in education and I’m constantly navigating/redefining my view of the world of motherhood/ambition/what-is-work?/UGH. I’m just so angry that his views reflect a narrative that completely disregards the beautiful complexity of my experience AND THEN he frame s it within a context of religious superiority (that’s another part that makes me want to explode)…as if God would have it this way. Wrong wrong wrong wrong wrong. I could go on forever. I’m livid.
Just started a "couch to 5k" program two weeks ago, so the running recs are particularly apt for me! I've spent the last two weeks wondering why none of my shorts have pockets for my phone - ha!