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OPAL! My goodness.

We do that very southern thing of Miss/Mr. First Name. But my kids are still little...I wonder if they would switch to last names in teenagerdom.

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My answer to the q: How do your kids refer to adults?

I wish we had a better system, but they call them all sorts of names! With people at church, it's easy: Sister Purser, Brother Green, etc. Similar for aunts and uncles (though I'm not extremely strict about it). It gets tricky with other adults: a handful of our close adult friends get called their first name only, like Allen and Cynthia, but I feel like that's not very respectful? A lot of friends' moms get called Miss ___, ie Miss Hannah and Miss Elizabeth, which works well. But calling a dad "Mr. Allen" or "Mr. Robbie" kind of sounds silly to me?!

I NEVER called adults by their first names when I was a kid, but now I don't know how to teach my kids all the manners around adult names.

Would love to hear if you've figured this one out!

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The first time a little girl called me "Elissa" rather than Sister Bean, Miss Elissa, Alice's Mom, or Auntie Elissa I knew it felt wrong!! I'm fine with informality, but I really think it's nice to say Mr. or Miss. It's very hard to return to formality so I think if we can maintain some sort of respect in this area that would be ideal!! Also, thank you for the shout out!!

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Opal is my favorite! My little Hazel was born this month, two years ago (today, actually!) and so every time I see one, I get to think of her.

I will accept being called ANYTHING by a child, except for Mrs. Zwahlen, haha.

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